It's a memorable day tonight alright, the 3rd day of CNY.
There were lots of talking, laughing and surprise surprise... in many years now.... singing. It's been a tradition for us to have an open house on the 3rd day of CNY every year now without fail and this year is not left out. Dad managed to fix the karaoke machine and someone gave him a whole bunch of karaoke songs to sing so try to imagine this scene:
A full house of probably 50-60 guests, all cramped in together in a small space.
Ok doesn't help much I know and it's really too bad I don't have any pictures to prove the night at all. We were all busy entertaining guests, making sure they had enough to eat and drink and we tried our very best not to bore them after feeding them with ridiculously lots of food. Guess that's why Dad got the karaoke machine fixed. Instead of boring ourselves in front of the tv after meal like the previous years, we now provide them with karaoke entertainment haha yea.. wtf some of you might say.
I was initially quite embarrassed with the idea in the beginning, you know, having my own bunch of friends there as well. I'd say they must be shocked by the amount of family members I have. Anyone would. Sometimes I secretly wonder if that scared off my previous ex-es, having to deal with so many people.
But as the night dragged on and as I explained to my friends and bf that that's what the family usually likes to do hoping they'll understand, I saw the look on my dad's face and everything made sense. I felt embarrassed for being embarrassed that my family was singing karaoke. Why would I feel that way? Why? Of all this time... now? Was it because I just wanted to pretend that everything is normal when my friends are there and in reality it's not?
This is my family. They love to talk, they love to be noisy, they love a good laugh and they're not afraid to make a fool of themselves. It's perfectly alright because we're with family and we all understand. There is no pretense when you're with family. There is no need to behave, only the need to feel perfectly at ease with yourself.
Yes, I do worry sometimes if the guy I'm in relationship with can accept this. I come with the whole package. No, not like he has to feed the whole family but more of like... I don't know.. some people prefer dealing with smaller families you know what I'm trying to say?
Beneath it all, regardless who I'm seeing, I'm still a Chinese. I can pretend to be who they want me to be but I can't change the fact that I'm Chinese and being a Chinese mostly means you have lots of family members cause we value family relationships like that.
I don't force everyone to accept the Sharon + whole big crazy family package but I only merely ask them to understand where I'm coming from.
Because when you're with them, it feels like the safest, warmest, most comfortable place to be.
Tonight, I understand my roots all over again.
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I think every partner comes with their own quirks. My wife has this thing with her family where they can just sit for an hour after a meal (and the waiters have cleared up the table too) just to talk and lim teh. My family on the other hand is the exact opposite, we're fast to start, fast to eat and fast to finish up to go. Took a while for my wife to get used to the speed and I had to keep all the meat, fish, and vege on a separate plate for her otherwise everything sapu clean before she even starts on her first helping.
Karaoke and a large family is probably a bonus for the bf imho. It'll be very happening 99% of the time and the 1% will be the toilet breaks.
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